"i'm relieved ..."

in reference to me not wanting to have anything to do with my father any longer.

but, he got to put me in a 304 situation. this ignorant asshole who knows nothing about the system tells me that i just had to get out of there instead of getting to the core of the problem... you don't get to the core of anything but following orders from staff and doctors about taking medication on time, as prescribed, despite your "real" doctors or what YOU know about YOU, no matter how old or young you are, and no matter how educated or ignorant you are.

i was one of the most educated people there... well... actually i was one of the least EDUCATED, yet more than two other patients told me that i gave them more clear information than any staff or doctor and that i seemed extremely intelligent.

but who does this asshole of a "father" listen to? does he listen to his son, who has explained the system to him several times? no. he listened to: "the professionals."

i hate my father.

he thinks it's great to have me out of the family.

so what THE FUCK is the reason why i was 304ed after NOT killing myself and solving my own problem? i could have been out of his list of self imposed problems (money, anxiety) for years if he'd just accept my RIGHT to DIE.

but then, it's not LEGAL to die by your own hand in this society is it?

someone call crisis on my father. he needs a ride through the system so he can "get to the bottom of the problem."

610-791-3188
610-703-9887

i could destroy his career like jefferson destroyed mine. but i have impulse control. i think about things. and i think THIS would be far more educational and constructive.

you want to know the story of my life in relation to my father?

PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH PUSH

i was an autistic child.

his way of teaching bicycle is to tell you to do it and then get mad and walk away when you get frustrated with him and the bicycle. me. my sister. same with math. "You don't speak English? That's ok, I'LL TALK LOUDER AT YOU AND POINT AT THINGS VIOLENTLY! PROBLEM SOLVED!!"

MONEY. That's all that matters to him. That's all that matters to his parents. That's all that matters to the whole fucking family. Work, get married, have children, work to raise your children, get to an old age spoiling as many grand/great grand children as you can before you just... die.

MONEY.

"i'm relieved you want nothing to do with me'" i paraphrase.

"i'm done with you." he said.

My "father" lives in a large, beautiful colonial house with enclosed back porch. You'd think he was someone... "important" ... he might say... IF he had any perspective. He has beautiful land that he thinks he must maintain to some sort of suburban standard. Ridiculous. Does he enjoy it?

i asked that question of the two of them repeatedly and they didn't even comprehend the question without me explaining it.

They want to sell it and buy a condo.

makes me want to fucking puke.

i hate my life, but that was my home and they want to trade it in for a fucking condo?

a $400,000 (more??) home and they want to trade it in for a motherfucking condo??

un.real

i've been told to write a book. If i live long enough, and some editor can remove enough material and still have the publisher go ahead, maybe then... someone might fucking get it.

But probably not because people don't really read much. THEY SEE BIG WORDS AND LOOK AT SHOCKING PICTURES AND WATCH FOX NEWS AND TALK ABOUT KILLING TOWELHEADS. They don't think or read.

i hate being here.

for jefferson

everything i touched, you broke

i admitted my admiration for you
and you broke it by taking advantage

i admitted my AS to you
and you used it as a weapon against me

i trusted you to be a friend, as you claimed to be
and you broke it into a billion little fragments of hate

i can't even email to the university
because you've poisoned me so
that my words became uncontrolled

OR your infestation of IT worked
and they did as you PRESCRIBED

everything i touched, you broke

my clients
my work
me relationships
my career

everything i touched, you broke

you're so
insecure
so afraid
so small
ignorant

controlling,
or trying to be
and failing

control

over your life
your employees
your supervisors
"human resources"
(sociopaths of a kind
you could only DREAM of being)

your wife
whom you live off of

crushing her will
to speak in public
to do anything which
you disapprove

i hope she sees you;
rotten to the core

i hope she leaves you
to drink at the television
to a downward and
deathly spiral, just
just as you deserve

the world didn't do this to you
you did this to the world
and it reciprocated.
...and you blame it for that.
fool.

your not worth the suffering
yet everything you touch, you brake.

Boy Suffocated During School Punishment

i don't normally post articles from elsewhere but this was too much for me NOT to post it. It might be old news to you, but this belongs in my list of contributions one way or another because this is a crime committed against the weak and the oppressed by the authority and the arrogant oppressors... against a child.

MONTREAL - After nine-year-old Gabriel Poirier was discovered lifeless in his classroom last April 17, his parents were told their autistic son had stopped breathing after hiding under a heavy therapeutic blanket.

Now a coroner has revealed that Gabriel's teachers had tightly wrapped him in the buckwheat-stuffed blanket, leaving only the tips of his ears sticking out, as punishment when he became disruptive. They left him unsupervised in a corner for 20 minutes, returning when a timer sounded.

Gabriel was unconscious and blue in the face. He was rushed to hospital, where he died the following night surrounded by his family.

In a report published yesterday, Coroner Catherine Rudel-Tessier concluded the child suffocated. She said the teachers at the special-needs school in Saint-Jean-sur-Richelieu, Que., failed to follow guidelines for the blankets, which are used commonly to calm autistic children.

"He was only 53 pounds, he was so small," Gilles Poirier, the boy's father said at a news conference yesterday. "How can they wrap him up like that in a 40-pound blanket? How can this treatment be tolerated?"

It can't, or shouldn't be tolerated... but look... it happened, didn't it?

Ms. Rudel-Tessier said proper use of the blanket called for a child to be rolled at most once and for his head to be left uncovered. The blanket was to be used as a relaxation therapy, not as a punishment, and teachers were supposed to keep an eye on children using the blankets.

More ignorant "teachers" with their own rules on human behavior...

"A child rolled 'at least four times' in such a heavy blanket is under restraint," the coroner wrote.

Jean-Pierre Menard, a lawyer representing Gabriel's parents, is calling for changes to legislation to control the use of restraints in schools. The parents are also planning to sue the Hautes-Rivieres school board.

As they should. They should pick every bone from the rotten corpse of that school district.

The coroner said use of the blankets should be ceased until clear guidelines are established. Basic rules would include ensuring the blanket is not too heavy for the child, never covering the child's head, ensuring that vital signs can always be observed, never rolling the child in the blanket and ensuring the child can get out if he wants to.

More importantly, "random" objects should not be used for punishment just because a "teacher" thinks it would be a good idea. Like when [our] parents broke wooden spoons on our rear ends, shoved soap into our mouths and whipped us with belts...

Kathleen Provost, executive director of the Autism Society of Canada, said weighted blankets can be calming for autistic children when used under the guidance of an occupational therapist. "They have a therapeutic use and can be relaxing," she said.

This is true. i am much more comfortable with pressure. i ache to have a bed partner. Not for sex (though that's nice, too). Heavy blankets, NOT the therapeutic one mentioned in this story, have always been a comfort to me, but i must have adequate access to breathing cool air to compensate for the pressure and the temperature build-up.

Mr. Menard said the parents were surprised to learn Gabriel had been placed in the blanket as a punishment. The school board had initially said it was a natural death and that Gabriel had gone under the blanket on his own.

In other words, they lied. Lied lied lied. Gone "under" the blanket is not at all similar to being wrapped more than four times in the thing.

"The principal said they found Gabriel under the blanket and he wasn't breathing. The parents thought that something had happened while he was sleeping and that was how he died," Mr. Menard said. He said the school board later told the media that Gabriel had hidden under the blanket.

In other words, they lied. Lied lied lied.

Mr. Poirier said he cannot understand why his child was placed in a restraint. "He was a very gentle boy," he said. "Sometimes he was loud, but he was never aggressive or violent. I just don't understand how this happened," he said, tears streaming down his face.

ghamilton@nationalpost.com

It happened because there was an arrogant, ignorant fool in power over children who are taught to obey mindlessly. This is a humanitarian crime. This is murder.

the credit, and special thanks, goes to the original author Graeme Hamilton at National Post in Canada.

poor reading comprehension = ignorance

quote:

"... Everything that you accuse others of is what YOU are. I am amazed that you can't see that.

Again, you will refuse to look at what I am saying and you will go off on another boring and whiney tirade to deflect the truth of it all. But I just had to tell you how I see you, and I can't be the ONLY person who sees you for what you are. Lots of people run away from you for a reason...not because they're jerks, or sociopaths, or "wimpy", it's because you are INTOLERABLE and you are intolerable not because you've had rough crap happen to you but because of how you've CHOSEN to deal with it and you treat others so nastily.

If by some rare chance you actually paused and acted the way you try to make others act by 'yelling' and 'screaming' at them you might come close to seeing yourself for what you really are. (but you won't) ..."

The first paragraph is exactly what i expect from ignorant and intolerant people who need to project their own problems onto the people who have exposed their own. It's also part of the giveaway. i can read a person's identity by how they word themselves and the memes they use. And yes, THIS is projection: The declaration that the things one has been blamed for doing are actually being done by others, not the person who's REALLY doing it. Everyone knows i hate Freud and am not in full agreement with Wikipedia's validity ... but... HERE.

and here:

6 a: the act of perceiving a mental object as spatially and sensibly objective; also : something so perceived b: the attribution of one's own ideas, feelings, or attitudes to other people or to objects; especially : the externalization of blame, guilt, or responsibility as a defense against anxiety

That last paragraph i included is a gem of poor reading and writing comprehension; where is the completion of the statement? But i wont redirect into complaints about writing skills... Go read the rest of the assault from the ignorant "Stunned" over here. These are exactly the kinds of holier than thou people i can't stand; the ones who talk out their asses in order to make themselves feel better about their own shitty actions. They may sound good on the surface, but when you know them and you analyze what they have said, you get the truth: they're insecure, selfish, arrogant, and best of all, have a personal ax to grind against me (or whoever they're ranting at; and, yeah, i rant too, but at least my rants have some basis of reality to them instead of creative vocabulary and context-free, pack animal attack mentality). This person is more interested in being RIGHT, not being correct and i am not the least bit embarrassed to showcase it.

example of my "best friends" from "the old days"

This is a demonstration of my life and only aimed at Dave.

Dave Brinton wrote to me:

I am taking a week's vacation next week. I will be in Allentown from the 30th until the the 6th. For the most part it will just be me and Sam. Erin has to work and isn't coming up until the weekend. You and I are going to the movies on Tuesday. No arguments. No late night showings either. Matinee. The sun will be out. Sam takes her naps from noon to 2pm. That is when we are going. Just you and I.

You will change your sleeping schedule (or lack thereof) as necessary. You will take whatever drugs you feel are necessary. But you will be ready to go to a Noonish movie. We will be going to the best theatre in the valley. The new Saucon Valley Rave. Digital Projection. Professional sound.

This is not a debate. This is not a request.

I will call you Monday with the details. Whether you answer the phone or not is irrelevant. I will be there Tuesday to pick you up. Distance and time is not a factor. If I have to pick you up at 11 to make a 12:45 show then that is what I will do.

I will be there Tuesday. You will be ready. This is not an intervention, just a simple statement of fact.

Please, do not force me break into your home and drag you to the the theatre. I've been trained to do both and I can come armed if you feel that is what it will take.

As for what we're seeing and as a final statement, well, here's a hint: "You won't like me if i'm angry"

"YOU WILL [this]" and "YOU WILL [that]"

A friend of mine replied to Dave:

Hi Dave,

I'm a friend of Jace's, and he forwarded your email to me. If he disagrees with what I write, then he will say so, but I think he sent your message to me so that I could give you feedback on your plan to drag him out to a movie.

You have a plan that would work for a person like you. When you're feeling down it probably helps when someone drags you out to a movie. It distracts you from the problem that's got you down and allows you a moment of perspective to see that the rest of your life is still there, waiting for you to pay attention to it.

You want to help Jace feel better, so it seems like a good thing to do for him. I think your determination is heartwarming.

However, Jace is not a normal guy, and he's not just feeling down, and the rest of his life is not waiting for him. This plan is likely to backfire horrifically. Please don't carry through with it.

You have a thread of friendship based on a positive shared past and Jace is grateful that you still care about him. But he is a very different person now, and much more fragile than you imagine - possibly more fragile than you CAN imagine. (If you read about what it feels like to be depressed and to have PTSD and to have sensory overload problems, then maybe you'll get close to imagining it.)

It's much safer for Jace and you and your friendship if you give up the idea that you can make him feel better. It's not in your power. I wish I could tell you something positive or helpful to do instead, but I can't think of anything.

The bearer of sad news,
[name]

Dave's response:

The thing is [name]. I do not know you. No offense, but why exactly should I take your advice? Maybe I don't know Jace anymore, but I definitely don't know you.

I come to the area where he lives with enough time to visit someone else besides family maybe once a year. So if you are the person that makes decisions for him then I will need to hear that from him.

I've been friends with Jace since 3rd grade. I think i'm the only person left who falls into that category.

He does not owe me anything. I do not demand anything of him (well beyond being conscious, clothed, and preferably not smelling, but I guess I can overlook the last part).

Since as far as I can tell he can still see moving pictures and speak the English language he has all the requirements needed to at least understand the film, if not necessarily enjoy it.

Jace and I don't need a heart to heart. I'm not going to try and 'cure' him or any of that nonsense. I want to go see a movie with someone I ate paste with in kindergarten. I want to watch some big CG green guy yell 'Hulk Smash' while I suck down a 64oz. of my favorite beverage.

When not actively watching the film. My topics of conversation were probably going to revolve around Dr. Who, LEGO's new product line, and other Sci-Fi and Sci-Fi related topics. I'll even talk string theory if he wants, though that was another of our friend's specialties not mine.

About the only time we won't be talking is during the movie. Then i'll need him to shut the hell up. I hate people who talk during a movie.

About the only topics we never saw eye to eye on were music and women.

Which brings me back to you. Why exactly should I take your advice?

If Jace is planning on his life being over then I can at least rest easy knowing he's got 'Hulk Smash' stuck in his head like a bad song.

i replied:

because i asked her (or someone out of the four people who care to handle me a little bit more empathetic online than anyone in the real world) to do something. because my last EEG proved useless. because i have no credit. because i have no job. because i have no way to clear my reputation because of some FUCKING CUNT named will jefferson at KU FUCKED UP MY LIFE. because i was having my sewer back up in the basement. because the girl i'd been seeing just vanished (this is the second time now that someone i've been seeing has done this to me).

because i was not, and am still not, able to communicate (only i napped a bit between thena nd now) because if you force my hand, i will lose it.

"No offense, but" is the exact kind of insensitivity i cannot deal with, joking or not and i do believe i asked you to stop with the joking when i'm hurting. [There are plenty of other veiled insults and passive aggressive commentary in there that hides as "just joking - i'm NOT joking]

if you want to do something constructive, use your resources to fuck over jefferson, or tell [name] how WE can do so. Like, for example: is it public record to find out why someone left the military? i think jefferson was an insubordinate asshole, but that's not his story.

otherwise.... that's all for now

Passive-Aggressive, Holier Than Thou Response from Dave:

Fine. just forget that I asked.

An individual's military records are confidential and personal information. As such they are not public record and are exempt from even the Freedom of Information Act. I cannot give you that information and you cannot access it. Only a court order would gain a civilian access to those files. [all i needed to know]

[but that wasn't enough to beat me into the dirt] Regardless, I will not abuse my position for any kind of personal vendetta. [if you want to know about personal vendetta's you should research what jefferson did to ME which OUR STATE ALLOWED and FACILITATED]

Be careful who you send your emails to and the language they contain. Like the original one that started all this.

Sending it to the White House was not a good idea.

OUTRAGED ME:

so fucking kill me then!

i never asked you to abuse your position, Dave. i've asked people to make use of their resources before and never once asked them to abuse their positions.

"the original one that started all this..."

FUCK.

no have you fucking clue where this all started. maybe all my fucking life growing up with people like you taking the moral and masculine high ground has something to do with it when i played along and did everything i was told to do and i GOT FUCKED UP THE ASS. you're always so FUCKING ENTITLED, GODDAMN IT. i had a fucking career while you and everyone else were in school, now i have fucking NOTHING. you wanna take the moral high ground, FUCK YOU.

and fuck the white house.

i've had all the support from this fucking country i can stand.

AND

i didn't take ANY of this as funny. you know why, Dave? because this is how i've been treated my whole life. not asked. TOLD. not invited, DEMANDED and EXPECTED. There's never an alternative for people like you who have no empathy for the situations of others.

talk about watching what you say in emails......... fucking hypocrite. you "have been trained and can come armed if that's what it takes." bullet, in brain stem. go for it!

should i forward THIS to the useless whitehouse?

FUCK YOU!

[do they do sensitivity training in the FBI??]

AND MORE from me:

im sick of it, Dave. this is why i don't associate with john and tammy any more.

no one has a fucking bit of empathy and yet i[m the one that gets the pop-media bullet point "CAN'T EMPATHIZE"



FUCK YOU ALL

AND STILL MORE BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE THROWING UP

you just hve no fucking clue, do you?????

come on, send me some more passive aggressive blame. i love it.

you ever gone weeks at a time without sleep or rest? suffered learning

disabilities that people told you were YOUR OWN PERSONAL ATTITUDE

PROBLEM?? BEEN REFUSED MEDICAL HELP???
F U C K Y O U

And another voice from people who GET IT:

Dave,
You said you wanted to help Jace. The best thing you can do if you truly value his friendship is to back off for a while and learn about the neurological differences between him and you. Jace is a good person. He is a very loving and caring person. It seems to be far more difficult for men to understand AS and the difficulties he has had than it is for women to empathize with him [i beg to differ, since all women who i've dealt with were just as intolerant but hid it until they were ready to leave me]. I will not speculate in this case why that is so. But please, even if you are angry right now, do not respond to him until you have done some outside reading about Asperger's Syndrome and PTSD.

[name]

P. S. You don't know me either, but I know what I am talking about.

remember, help isn't something offered; it's something inflicted by those who want you not to be different from them.

neuroracism: still fighting to kill children's will to live

TO: The Entire St. Lucie County School Board (HensleyK@stlucie.k12.fl.us, IngersollT@stlucie.k12.fl.us, MillerJ@stlucie.k12.fl.us, CarvelliJ@stlucie.k12.fl.us, HilsonC@stlucie.k12.fl.us)
RE: Alex Barton's Human Rights Violated
B/CC: Friends, parents, family, lawmakers, Human Rights Organizations, etc.

i'm ... horrified... - No, that word isn't strong enough. i'm DISGUSTED... - No, that's still not enough to express my OUTRAGE...

Wendy Portillo's display of ignorance and cruelty is inhuman. i would hope she loses her employment over this disgusting act of neuroracism and intolerance. It goes beyond intolerance. Her students have learned, at 5-years of age, that they can exclude other children by force simply because they do not "like" something about them. This is the birthplace of bullying, which is mental abuse (and leads to physical abuse). This is anti-education. It is the spread of ignorance to those who are there to be taught. Wendy Portillo's ignorance has just become a powerful message of cruelty to those who will replicate it and those who have been victimized by it.

i should know: i have Asperger's Syndrome. i always have. Alex Barton at least has the opportunity i never had: proper diagnoses and proper care... but Wendy Portillo has sabotaged Alex Barton's chances for a better future. Because of the cruelty and insensitive abuse he was subjected to, in front of an entire class of peers and executed BY an authority figure (Ms. Portillo), he now has great potential to become... LIKE ME.

http://dysamoria.com

i was abused and harassed from day one. There was no diagnostics for me and none were pending or in progress until i forced my way through the ignorant medical system almost four years ago, starting at age 29. i'm 32 now. NOW i have my diagnosis. It is far too little and far too late. People like your Ms. Portillo have ruined my ability to function as an independent adult... long before i became one.

i was timid and had probably many of the same difficulties as your "teacher's" victim Alex Barton; the "authority" and the peers were judgmental and ignorant. i was victimized by constant "corrections," intimidating, confusing and illogical instruction by "authority figures" and penalized with horribly non-applicable "disciplinary actions." i was disallowed advocation, accommodation, compassion or empathy. i learned very quickly that i was worthless in a world of cold, empathy-devoid, hate-filled monsters. i fought throughout my entire life and i lost. The last battlefield was employment by Kutztown University of PA. Diversity? Human Rights? Unions? Law? Nothing. No rights. No support. Where there is no money, there is no way. Where there is no mental stamina, there is no ability to FIGHT to seek help.

How old is Alex Barton? FIVE?? We're talking about a CHILD. What chances are there for him? Are his parents wealthy and able to spend millions fighting ignorance in institutionalized thinking environments like your school?

i thought children were supposed to be our most precious assets and were to be protected at all costs... but apparently that is a falsehood ... merely mystical fantasy and propaganda. Apparently, it is sanctioned by "authority figures" to grotesquely abuse children born with neurological differences from "the norm" because "someone doesn't like them."

St. Lucie... Saint!?!? This is not a name applicable to a domain run by antipathy, racism, intolerance, ignorance and cruelty. What's the two letter abbreviation for "demon?"

There should be a warning notice on your website which indicates that children of differing neurology are unwelcome and will be tossed out like filthy refuse.

i DARE you to look me in the eyes, via my website and my blog, and see what people have made of me by treating me as your school has treated Alex Barton. Tell me that my life of suffering and abuse is acceptable and then go tell Alex Barton what he is likely to become because people under YOUR AUTHORITY are allowed to propagate fear, hatred, cruelty, ignorant judgment, and neuroracism. Look into OUR eyes and tell us that we are inhuman in yours; tell us that we are worthless.

"Alex hasn't been back to school since then, and Barton said he won't be returning. He starts screaming when she brings him with her to drop off his sibling at school.

Thursday night, his mother heard him saying "I'm not special" over and over.

Barton said Alex is reliving the incident."

You enabled and allowed this mental damage to be done to an extremely impressionable and pliable human child's mind. i KNOW what reliving toxic experiences is like. i experience it every day and night. i cannot sleep. My brain will not rest. i am on disability because sociopathic cruelty and neuroracism forced me from a career i loved and excelled at. The organ in my skull called a brain is failing because of insomnia, a lifelong struggle for those with autism, made terminal via lifelong abuse. When i close my eyes and dream, i scream, i yell, i am abused again and again by reliving remixes of the abuse.

Look Alex Barton in the eyes and tell him that you condemn him to a life of misery and disability. A life condemned to being "less than," living in an intolerant society that WILL beat him down no matter how hard he tries.

Thursday night, his mother heard him saying "I'm not special" over and over.

Barton said Alex is reliving the incident."

...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.

Creatures like YOUR KIND have damned me to a life of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, sleep seizures, nightmares, Borderline Personality Disorder, toxic memory replays, human rights violations, harassment, social abandonment, isolation and what is becoming terminal insomnia (the state supplied disability health "coverage" refuses me access to the ONE medication that can help my brain attain delta wave sleep, the only stage in which the brain, as an organ, can rest and repair damage from stress and activity).

...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.
...Alex is reliving the incident.

i hope your school's reputation is forced to relive this indecent event as a permanent public relations scar; a reminder of when your school violated- no- RAPED the developing mind of a fragile 5-year-old CHILD with ignorance, neuroracism and intolerance.

-jace cavacini
adult with autism, shunned by society and harassed into disability by antipathy for 32+ years.

elderly abusing disabled people??

"Elder Abuse" is a term to describe the abuse of elderly people. This can occur in the home (by relatives or outpatient-care nurses) or in group homes for the elderly (by employees). It's a terrible- no- horrible problem. Often these abused persons have no way of seeking help. Who would believe the "crazy old person" when telling tales of otherworldly treatment in a facility designed to care for elders when they need assistance?

It's all too true and all too real.

To make matters worse, there's another way of using the word "elderly" with the word "abuse." It is being discovered as another frightening and growing trend that elderly people are abusing younger people who have disabilities.

You read that correctly.

First, think about a few issues elderly people face:

1. Isolation and loneliness - not all elderly people have spouses or close friends, as these support persons may have died off. They're lonely and ...
   
2. Boredom - i'm sure you've had times where you felt like stomping bugs or throwing spitballs because you were just THAT horribly bored. Lack of intellectual stimulus leads to atrophy of the intellect. Combine that with number one, above, isolation and loneliness... you get lots of impulses to occupy yourself with ANYTHING, including things that... well... really don't matter. Obsessing over the lawn. Worse, things that aren't your business, like other people's lawns.
   
3. Decades of baggage - i don't mean luggage. i refer to decades of unhandled emotional problems. Problems which may have been marginal and manageable when items 1 and 2 above were not problems have a tendency to grow into monster problems. OCD, paranoia, insecurities, low self esteem, etc. These become pathological and dangerous to harmonious interaction with neighbors and family members.
   
4. Social ignorance - i do not suggest elderly people are stupid. i suggest that they are out of touch with modern awareness of things such as disabilities, which is the focal point of this article.
   

Now, instead of ONLY giving you my likely-biased personal examples, i will first bring to you the comments posted on a forum called "Butch-Femme" which deals with supporting individuals with gender role issues. They had a particularly interesting thread about cyber bullying and other types of harassment. i will quote the relevant comments below:

Quote:
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Originally Posted by 909 Pervertions

hi there everyone

... i liked the information you posted regarding PTSD as a result of bullying, because i am working right now with a housing authority, fair housing officer, legal rights, & the civil rights commission [plus more contacts], on this very issue-

senior citizens have been doing the bullying- i.e., targeting & exploiting individuals who may have serious/sensitive vulnerabilities along the lines of mental/neurological/emotional- and it's been a surreal scenario because the senior citizens are claiming "elder abuse!" they look like neatly dressed senior citizens with fearful expressions and are convincing as can be- except - they've been caught in the act with pretty heavy duty acts of discrimination...

their "deliberate" behaviours: targeting; stalking; threatening; hate-crimes; animal cruelty; discrimination; and so on- have created personal hells for their targets because it interferes not only in the victims use all common areas, public transportation, and personal safety within that particular community, it's broader still- the bullies have "recruited" people from outside of the housing community- so- the bus who picks up some of the mentally ill people for example, doesn't offer rides because the supervisor is a friend of the main bully at the residental community, who has listened to all of the gossip, accusations, and- so on...

i met and helped a woman over a year ago [reinstated transportation rights, no small undertaking! she needed the bus in order to visit the market to have food-] - she had her "rights" all along- but has a mental illness & besides the bus intimidation, had been bullied for using the sidewalk, laundry room, playing bingo, et c for come to find out- humiliated, ostracized, name-called, et c for *** 8 *** years inside [and outside] of her community- it's how i uncovered the discrimination / senior citizen bullies there-

the senior citizens would ring up the police department [and fire department] and have an officer dispatched at an odd hour to the home[s] of their target[s]- for everything under the stars, although nothing was "found" by the officer during the call... the bullies managed to further add stress/anxiety levels of the targeted individuals by disrupting sleep schedules...

patterns began to emerge - the seniors contacted the police stating they were being harrassed by the mentally ill- and feared the Victims- were out to get The Seniors !

hypervigilant- not paranoid- targets figured out whatever they were blamed for doing, is exactly what the bullies were up to- it was projected: blamed/reversed on the victims ...

the bullies are presently being dealt with by law enforcement, housing, and possibly a trial is in the not too distant future...
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909
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Is this story shocking to you? It wasn't shocking to me. In fact, this was pointed out to me by a friend who visits and comments on my blog. He did some searching to see if there were other examples of my personal struggles with elderly neighbors and sent me the link to 909's posting. This friend has been a wonderful assistance to me.

Another quote:

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Originally Posted by 909 Pervertions

Is bullying of adults seen as a lesser crime, a lesser concern?

dear bardicsong

i found this question of particular interest - many resources/support systems often can be fairly accessible for [parents of] children &/or young adults who are experiencing victimizing- stressful-frightening- circumstances: bullying; disabilities; medical conditions; and so on...

the adult appears to have minimal apertures in some, but not all support systems- perhaps not so much with the mainstream groups for depression and/or ptsd, medical illnesses, et c... bullying , and the emotional impact [in addition to physical/spiritual/intellectual] for adults who may be dealing with a disability of some sort is more complicated at times, in actual presentation of symptoms...

the victim bullied [with or without disability] may be seen as a crazy adult who *should * know better- there are multiple scenarios whenever an individual has not the typical *coping skills * to begin with- bullying can create so many frustrations for the victim, who may be trying to stand up for herself that she actually appears as a bully...

disabled/vulnerable people are just the ones certain bullies target/seek out- there's a spectrum of bully-types, as there are people on the spectrum with autism, depression, intelligence, support systems, comprehension of what defines bullying, and more...

i sure hope this makes sense- there are excellent contributions in this thread- thanking you all-

all the best to everyone!

respectfully,
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i couldn't have said these things better myself. Just for the hell of it, here's the reply i sent to 909:

i am high functioning autistic. AS, to be specific. i was directed to your posting, 909, by a friend who is into relationships research. This is what i had to say:

"This is incredible. Just a few days ago, i went out into my back yard to pick berries from my overweighted golden raspberry bush... i was out there no longer than 5 minutes and the wacko on my right came out to harass me about my lawn (which is not breaking any ordinances), my pale of lawn pullings (it's been sitting there to dry and allow the bugs to bail out, so i can use it for mulch to keep the weeds down where i have intentionally planted stuff, like the berry bushes), and so on. i literally fear going outside because one jerk or the other will come out to harass me. i even considered calling the police to make a complaint. This woman came out no less than four times and WATCHED ME from her door, sending complaints that i couldn't and didn't care to hear. i tried to take it all in stride and just say "yeah yeah" and not even look at her, but i shouldn't even have to deal with it. i resolved to tell the next one who harasses me "Could you possibly allow me to have peace in my own yard!!!""


BOTH next door neighbors are senior citizens. BOTH of them treat me like the problem is MINE. The one on the right is OCD and cannot stand my yard. The one on the left is OCD+ other things and has harassed me, outright, while working in my own yard WITH a witness!!!

i have PTSD from a life time of mental abuse. i have insomnia and other parasomnias from the same (and from my neurology). i WAS a functioning member of society, earning a living, working a professional job training people on technology use. The straw that broke me was more like a giant redwood crashing through the back of my skull, thrown at me by people i thought were friends and professionals. My immediate supervisor at work is a sociopath. He lied to me, manipulated me, and finally harassed me to no end. The dean of our dept., his boss, told me all kinds of things to put me at ease when i finally walked off the job in tears and later came back. Months later, because i kept my mouth shut like the dean advised, SHE was spewing the same crap out of her mouth that HE had been. i was told by others at my workplace that the dean tends to believe whoever gets to her first and my sociopathic boss was ALWAYS using and abusing ANY opportunity to talk me down in front of others (since he finally had had it made clear that i wasn't going to take it from him any more).

Both bosses showed neuroracism and age-related prejudice.

i have a lot of talk about it on my blog at http://dysamoria.com , but i just wanted to say that your posting, 909, totally amazed me. It also makes me feel slightly LESS specifically targeted.

i've known for a long time how people think about neurological disorders and general disabilities and i know the elderly have an even worse viewpoint on it, as if it is a chosen lifestyle. Both next door neighbors have extreme anti-social problems and psychological problems of their own. They obsess (OBSESS) over their yards and they harass me and intimidate, and threaten me about mine. When do they do it? WHEN i'm WORKING on my yard!!!!!

i don't know why it's like this (actually i do, i have traits of autistic savant genius)... i wish it weren't like this and it's driving me insane (as if being on disability from constant social/mental abuse hasn't done enough damage). If you want to use me as a reference example of the same thing happening elsewhere, feel free to get in contact with me. The one "my age" neighbor told me just yesterday that the neighbor on my left side HATES her (this girl is, IMO, quite like myself, but she has a stronger stomach than myself and apparently doesn't let it get to her somehow).

anyway... thanks for sharing that information

dysamoria at dysamoria dot com.

i have since been harassed again. The following is an email i sent to my local police chief (and soon i will share this article with him as well. For context, the two elderly neighbors on the immediate left and right of my row home have harassed me primarily about ... my yard.

Quote:

Hello Chief,

To follow-up: my father and i worked on my yards today after i came home from the hospital. i have cropping to do yet around plants i am nurturing, but the yard no longer has foot-tall grass. i also edged the front yard since the dirt was encroaching upon the sidewalk, then sweaped-up the mess.

Yesterday, before entering my home when my dad dropped me off from the hospital, i pulled tall grass out with my hands (while wearing my EEG) because i respect the responsibility to take care of my yard in ways that it affects my neighbors; i don't want anyone to be required to tromp through the grass between street and sidewalk. So, i'm actually pretty aware of and conscientious of these things, even if i can't always act on it immediately. i appreciate your reminder and assistance, though :)

Also, i wanted to ask that you make a "polite reminder" to Anna that she mind her own business. As has happened EVERY TIME that i've worked on my yard from day ONE in Coplay to TODAY, i was trimming and she came out to harass me. She stood on my yard, approached me, attempting to "talk" to me. i had ear plugs in to protect from the trimmer noise and i KNEW she was there to harass me, so i ignored her for a minute. Finally, after i could no longer handle her lurking and picking at the ground, i turned off the trimmer and faced her (she was standing only 1 foot from me already). i didn't even get a chance to talk before she started "asking" if i was going to remove "those weeds over there" (pointing to the area i had previously started cleaning up BY HAND, while wearing an EEG, YESTERDAY). i told her "Do you see me working here?" She replied "Yes, but," and i interrupted by continuing "i am working on my yard." She then started AGAIN to complain and i again interrupted her by saying: "i'm taking care of my responsibility. Go back to your own place." She tried to "win" an argument i was not having by telling me "Never mind" and then walked away. About 15 to 20 minutes later, while i was out front again, Anna was "conspicuously whispering" to Rich's wife (the neighbor next door down, i don't remember her name) and i felt that she was complaining about me because Rich's wife politely gave "mmm hmm" responses without saying anything. Rich's wife's kids were playing with Mary's kids. Mary and Sam are on the other side of Dotty/Dorothy, the other elderly neighbor who has harassed me, in the opposite direction. Dotty has not bothered me in months, though she did ignore me when walking past me as i was sweeping up HER side of the cement walkway prior to making a mess with edging (which i cleaned up).

Anna has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and is passive-aggressive. i know this because of three years of observation. i personally feel that her argumentative and passive-aggressive personality is what put her husband in the ground. Her type of behavior is extremely toxic to me because it is exactly what i dealt with at KU. It is what i suffered most of my life while trying to "be the good boy" and do as people instructed. Trying to comply with passive-aggressive people lost me my job because they cannot be satisfied. Ever. The next time she harasses me, i will contact Coplay Police and ask to press harassment charges against her. i cannot continue to allow people free reign over me like this, whether they are "old" or not. She's OCD and passive-aggressive and it's not an "old age problem" alone. It's an anti-social disorder, as in "anti society." i'm doing more than my part in trying to fit into society. i don't see why i should suffer the anti-social harassments and abuses of people who skate just along the edge of legality when they strike just because they're old or not breaking the law conspicuously. i do believe i have the right to live and work in non-hostile environments. My right at work was violated. i don't want to continue having it violated in my own yard WHILE i am COMPLYING with the requirements of the society.

Please forgive my complaining nature. i'm not directing this at YOU in any way other than "you're the person who deals with the community as a member of the social support structure." i blame nothing on you or on Coplay. i blame poorly "trained" individuals who wont allow other individuals to live without harassment; you're not one of those problem individuals. i appreciate your help and your communication VERY much and hope that we can continue to maintain and grow our understandings of each other.

OCD reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/OCD
Passive-aggressive reference: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive-aggression#Common_signs
These and this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Malicious_compliance are several of the things that abusive people have demonstrated while abusing me in my lifetime, among others, like sociopathy (not a great reference but best i could find at the moment since WikiPedia refuses to acknowledge it just like the DSM-IV TR).

Thank you for your time, your consideration and, most importantly, your patience.

-jace

p.s.: my EEG gear looks like this:
http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3111/2528464721_576de8328a_b.jpg
and i've updated my blog with a similar account of events... don't know if you still check it out or not.

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Interesting? Boring? Sorry. Go read other stories about bombs and politics.

Unbelievable? Sorry, but it's all too real. i used to think that, were i in a wheelchair, people would be more patient and kind to me because they could SEE my disability. Maybe that's just not true. Maybe there are some people who just will never care about another person outside their own personal interests. i mean, wouldn't you stop and think a moment after your neighbor has posted signs on his door about not being able to tolerate further abuse and then when seeing that same neighbor wearing an ambulatory EEG on his head with a recorder on his hip... would you be more likely to show patience or would you just assume the guy is" a crazy adult who *should * know better??"

Human beings have a terrible habit of abusing members of their own species and their own communities. i fail to see the relevance in excusing anyone for age. Being impolite and rude is a little more universally understood than "autism," so why do so many people fail the most basic of rules of engagement when interacting with other people?

passive-aggressive neighborhoods...

my father and i worked on my lawn today after he brought me home from a check of my ambulatory EEG wiring at hospital.
Yesterday, after he dropped me off from the hospital, i pulled tall grass with my hands (while wearing my EEG) because i my trimmer batteries needed charging. i respect the responsibility to take care of my yard in how it affects my neighbors; why make anyone tromp through grass between their vehicles and the sidewalk?

... Back to today...

As has happened EVERY TIME i've worked on my yard, from day ONE at my house, while i was trimming, my elderly neighbor Anna came out to harass me. She stood on my yard, approached me, attempting to "talk" to me. i wore ear plugs to protect from the trimmer noise. i KNEW Anna was there to harass me. i tried to ignore her. Finally, i could no tolerate no more.

i turned off the trimmer and faced her (she was only one foot from me already). i didn't get a chance to talk before she started "asking" if i was going to "remove those weeds over there" (pointing to the area i had previously started cleaning up BY HAND, while wearing an EEG, YESTERDAY).

i told her "Do you see me working here?"
She replied "Yes, but-"
i interrupted with: "i am working on my yard."
She then started AGAIN to complain and i again interrupted her:
"i'm taking care of my responsibility. Go back to your own place."
She tried to "win" an argument i was not having by telling me "Never mind" and then walked away.

About 15 to 20 minutes later, Anna was "conspicuously whispering" to another neighbor; i felt the "spidey sense tingling" ... seemed she was complaining about me. The second woman politely gave "mmm hmm" responses without words.

On the opposite side of me lives Dotty/Dorothy, the other elderly neighbor who has harassed me. She's not bothered me in months, though she ignored the hell outta me walking past me as i was sweeping-up HER side of the walkway.

Anna has Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and is passive-aggressive. Dotty is passive-aggressive and maybe has OCD a bit, too. i know this because of three years of observation. i personally feel Anna's argumentative and passive-aggressive personality is what put her husband in the ground.

These types of behavior are extremely toxic. Especially to me. It's exactly what i dealt with at KU. It 's what i suffered most of my life while trying to "be the good boy" and do as people instructed. Trying to comply with passive-aggressive people lost me my job because these people cannot be satisfied.

Not Ever.

The next time Anna harasses me, i'll contact the police and press harassment charges. i cannot continue to allow people free reign over me like this, whether they are "old" or not. OCD and passive-aggressive disorder aren't just "old age problems." They're anti-social disorders, as in "anti society." i'm doing more than my part, trying to fit into society. i don't see why i should suffer anti-social harassments and abuses by people who skate just along the edge of legality when they strike... just because "they're old" or because they're "not breaking the law conspicuously."

"Bullying isn't illegal" - Sharon Picus, HR Manager, Kutztown University, Sociopath.

i believe i have the right to live and work in non-hostile environments. That right at work was violated. i won't continue allowing it to be violated in my own goddamned yard WHILE i am COMPLYING with the requirements of the society.

OCD reference
Passive-aggressive reference
Malicious_compliance (related to above and what i've suffered)
Sociopathy reference (not a great reference but best i could find quickly and better than Wiki's because Wiki's pedantic and inflexible nature of not including information that's not agreed to by the shitty DSM-IV TR. More about sociopathy on my blog).

(00:35 - heart palpitation, sitting on shitter, typing these recent blogs on laptop)

463 - a lesson in observation and self awareness

i used to think the "personal web page" was an icon of egotistical trend followers... Then i ended up making one of my own as a combination of portfolio and resume... and some personal politics.

Then came "the web log," which quickly became known as... "the blog."

"The blob?"
"No, the blog."
"Oh."

i thought blogging was another icon of egotistical, trend following, pet rock buying, meme spreading "something old is new again (because it has a different name)."

Now i have had one of these things for over three years. This being the 463rd posting, i thought to mention that my initial "distaste" for a "new fad" was probably just a trigger and response function of having spent 12 years in grade school, where fads were more important than life itself. It WAS life, in fact, to most people i "grew up with." i hate fads. i hate egoism. The last thing i want to do is follow a fad, appear to follow a fad or care about fads.

My aversion was also probably fueled somewhat by the "i'm uncomfortable with something new and different(ish)... things are changing... i don't like differentness and change..." feelings that come from my autistic traits.

Then again, according to many people who should be "in the know" (and are not), i'm not autistic (even though A Guide to Asperger's Syndrome is a rather excellent user manual for my life and brain).

One way or another, i grew past my aversions. Most likely by finding a contextual purpose for these things in my life. More importantly, i stopped being "anti" and negative minded about them. Good thing, too, because the aversion wasn't logical or rational. i know this by watching, observing and seeing other people have similar behaviors and then comparing myself to them. i don't do this to be "superior." i do this to check myself. Instead of hunting down a person who will support my negative views, i spend some time being objective about these traits in me when i see them in others. i see the traits as intolerant and fearful emotional reactions to things they do not understand. People criticize what they do not understand, right? Do i want to be one of those ignorant people?

No.

My ex-boss, the sociopath jefferson, at KU, has/had an aversion to realtime chat online. It is one of the features of Blackboard that he refused to utilize and tended to disparage. We discussed it, somewhat, and i shared my attempt at a balanced view of chatting. Yes, i admitted, there are some down sides such as poor reading comprehension of "chat speak" and typing speed limitations which make the tool uncomfortable for the "uninitiated" ... but what if you could add another potential route of communication to your teaching tools that enabled an entire group of students to communicate with you and each other which was not available to them before? Is that a "bad thing?" Should we shun a tool because we are ourselves uncomfortable with it, despite the fact that many more people ARE comfortable with it and are more likely to "speak up" given that method?

He was forced to agree. The man does attempt to be logical in relation to how he is likely to be perceived, so long as it is not extreme paranoia driving him. He has a mind which is very capable of logical reasoning when it is not obstructed by ego (which is something i could say about you, too, H). Did he embrace the tool from there on? No, but he did ... borrow ... my commentary about the tool when presenting Blackboard. It didn't bother me at the time. Since it was in group training and i was right there, i thought it was understood between us that it was shared knowledge. Except... he still had his personal aversion. This was demonstrated by referring to the two communication tools in Blackboard (forums and chat) as "asynchronous and synchronous communication."

"WHAT??"

These are terms that our clients were highly unlikely to understand at all, or at least not grasp within jefferson's context. It was as if he was refusing to step down to the "kid terms" "forum" and "chat." Another form of age elitism? The fact is, the terms "chat" and "forum" were understood by far many more clients than not. Many clients knew of the tools through their students, children or their own personal use in daily life. Some didn't know what these tools were, but highly technical terms, such as "asynchronous and synchronous communication" were not at all in those persons' lexicons and likely were not ever meant to be. It would be as logical as learning programming language terminology as part of the curriculum for becoming an illustrator.

To this day, i cannot really decide what motivated this choice in language. Was it to obfuscate something he didn't really want to accept was valid or was it his only way of comprehending something he didn't really grasp on a personal contextual level, in a functional manner?

More curiously, or ironic, or unfair... this is the same man who pushed me out of my job via harassment, bullying, and generally making my work environment hostile. He eliminated the member of the LTC team which was quite comfortable working with the tools he disliked and didn't have familiarity with. He eliminated the person who was skilled at adaptation to new tools and instructing others on how to apply those tools to their own needs, if appropriate. He eliminated... the competition for perception of who really made the LTC valuable.

This is why i blog. Not just because of sociopaths like jefferson. Not just to rant. i blog to expose. i blog to express. i blog to share.

What i know. What i see. What i hear. What i have learned. What Ever.

Through observing others, i have come to eliminate potential pitfalls for my own personality and attitudes. i have come to understand what makes certain types of people behave as they do. i have come to a lucidity about myself and a clarity about others, and how they treat people at all similar to myself, and i share this information in the hopes that it will either help people deal with me in a more humane way, or help people deal with their own personal experiences in a healthier way.

Most of all, to make it public. Exposure of truths.

i know about "YOU", "HIM", "HER" and "THEM" and i'm not afraid to tell it to the world... or the parts of the world that might accidentally read my blog, randomly, via chance or directed searches.

i am not "better" than jeffersonites, sociopaths, HR managers, flickr staff or girls with BPD. i simply BEHAVE better.

if they could see what we look like on the inside, maybe they would stop hurting us

not just autistics.
everyone.

because everyone has some kind of hurt.

the trouble is, most people use it as an excuse to not give a damn about the next person. most people will take any opportunity to stratify the smallest collection of humans so as to float up top, while the rest suffocate beneath them.

give empathy and kindness.
sure, you might not get it in return.
actually, the way i see most people, you probably wont.

but it beats the alternative; giving cruelty will do everyone more harm than the minuscule and petty "good" you mistakenly think your cruelty will do for you.

they are you,
you are they.
divided we stand,
together we fall.

fact. not fiction.
if you have the foresight and intelligence to grasp it.

warning: you may be dangerous to the person sitting next to you

You never considered that, did you? You don't live in your own private world. Your actions affect others. You may think that "being anti-social" means a person is unwilling to socialize... You're wrong, if so. If you've ever been called anti-social by a doctor, therapist or your kids (and if they know what they're talking about), it means that you have behaviors which disrupt the systems that make societies possible. It means that your behavior threatens the fabric of society itself. It means this: you're toxic. Maybe even outright dangerous.

BPD, sociopathy, psychopathy... barely acknowledged by "modern medicine..." These topics are "defined" by political works of reference, which are created by politicized committees, which are made up of people focused on their own agendas. Does that sound social to you?

What "the establishment" seems blind to when they define these dangerous behaviors are things such as simple arrogance, elitism, racism and ignorance. It's all defective behavior and it all endangers the fabric of society. Some of it has the label of "anti-social personality disorder" and is possibly "medicated" or "advised." The rest of it is considered "bad attitude" or "difference of opinion" and goes unchecked, unfiltered and largely without limitation because it isn't perceived as dangerous (or "deviant," but even the people who own deviantart.com seem to be utterly, and absurdly, ignorant about what the word "deviant" actually means).

Yes, the delimiter is the perception of "danger to others." Freedom of speech is protected as a right. Supposedly. Hate speech is not protected and can be found illegal, depending on the form. Does that logically mean that racists who openly "express their opinions" about other people are breaking the law? No. Some racists even manage to have their "freedom of speech" protected by the law... enabling them to wear culturally offensive "uniforms" (many with hoods for the protection of anonymity) and collect in "peaceful demonstration" of their intolerance of other human beings.

Confused? i sure am. But hey, i'm just a stupid autistic "kid" (i'm 32, you moron).

But wait... go back to that whole "Dangerous" bit... The anti-social "KKK" marchers who are "peacefully demonstrating" their hate... well, they aren't hurting anyone, are they? Is there any assault or even name calling? Maybe not, but what would you feel like if their "presentation" was a veiled suggestion that people like YOU should be legally enslaved or "deported" like your great grandfather/mother? Does that hurt you?

What is "hurt??" Is that the same thing you feel when you're assaulted physically??

i'll help clear that up in a moment. First, consider this:

A psychopath is clearly dangerous to individuals, should one determine he/she feels like killing or maiming other human beings or being "cruel" to animals (yet, a dog's owner is legally allowed to murder it, as long as it isn't done in a "cruel" way).

What about the girl with BPD who causes emotional trauma to person after person after person, out of sheer paranoia and self interest? The trail of ruined hearts and minds left in their wake is not worth consideration?? What about the ignorant university employees who pass judgment on, and are complacent about the harassment of, a person with autism, resulting in the unjust loss of that autistic person's job? (yeah, that's me, the autistic person, could you guess?)

What about the company executive (seemingly clearly sociopathic, to me) who allows the deaths of hundreds, or even thousands, at the failure of a product he/she is responsible for because of a "cost/risk analysis?" What about the responsibility-free individuals that make up a government which instructs its teenage military to wage war on others for... what were those wars about, again? Certainly not about spreading peace, human dignity, "democracy" or any other pretty words...

Why do these people remain free to repeat and continue their damage? Are they invisible? Excusable?? Psychopaths do tend to make themselves known, eventually, and it is harder to ignore them... but the others... the BPD girl, the corporate executive, the murderous war monger... they aren't at all invisible. Killing and destruction of societies, en mass... yet they go largely unchallenged. There's a lot of talk, when something manages to become a "controversy," but who is ultimately held accountable? Anyone at all? Is there REALLY a "court of public opinion" when most citizens of this nation (and others) are complacent, apathetic and callous to the suffering of ... the human being next to them?

i ask "Why do they remain free when the psychopaths are jailed and removed from society?"

i'll tell you why: Definitions.

Nothing more.

That sociopathic company man, supervisor or president of the USA go unchallenged because the law (obeyed or not) does not recognize them as being dangerous to society or individuals in that society. It's incredible, when you look at the actual details instead of the distractions.

What about you? Are you a contributor to peace and harmony or a bringer of chaos and distress? Does it please you to please others or does it please you to play political games? You know... shift and manipulate power structures to benefit your own personal agenda. Do you like that? Do you openly admit to it? That's bold of you...

Reality Check:

Next time you "go about your business," maybe you should take a moment to consider if YOU are hazardous to someone else's health and well being.

Are you a corporate lackey who's "just following instructions?" Are you an abusive sociopath thinking you're "just a demanding manager?" Is your spouse trapped by your intimidation, belittlement, passive-aggressive manipulation, paranoia and inflexibility? Are you a military general who's "just following orders?" Do you think you're "just having a little harmless fun with friends" when you joke at the expense of another person (a stranger or a "friend")? Are you cruel, callous, racist, arrogant or maybe "taking some extra latitude" and abusing your authority?

Are you, perhaps...

... a total asshole?

a company is a group of persons...

...as such, they should conduct business the same way as they would conduct themselves face to face with other people.

they don't, by large.

the reason?

anonymity.

especially when beyond arm's length. over the phone. via the internet. whatever.

if they conducted themselves face to face as they conduct themselves with their customers in their safe anonymity, they would have no friends, lovers or social acceptance. they might even be assaulted or arrested.

companies are exempt from certain legal obligations that individual human beings are held accountable for. is that sensible to you? a company is a group of persons... not held accountable for many of their actions. is that fair?

as several independent contractors i've noted have said in public forums: "If I behaved that way to my customers, i'd be out of business. Fast."

"Universal Insurance Company Motto"

"We do everything in our power to avoid doing the one thing we're supposed to do, all while continuously accepting your monthly payments!"

Bastards.

elise the destroyer, sairuh the cruel, jana the complacent betrayor

YOU ALL OWE ME WHAT YOU PROMISED AND DICKED OUT ON
BUT YOU ARE INCAPABLE OF THE SLIGHTEST BIT OF RESPECT FOR OTHER HUMAN BEINGS. YOU HAVE ZERO EMPATHY OR COMPASSION FOR THOSE YOU ABUSE, RAPE AND DESTROY. YOU'RE SICK PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE BORDERLINERS. I KNOW NOW THAT NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE YOU AND THAT SOME ACTUAL MATURE, GROWN-UP ADULTS WITH RESPONSIBILITY ARE CAPABLE OF TREATING ME WITH TRUE HUMAN RESPECT AND LOVING BEHAVIOR. IT'S NOT ME THAT'S THE PROBLEM. IT'S YOU

william fucking jefferson, sharon fucking picus

YOU FUCKING OWE ME, YOU BLOOD SUCKING SOCIOPATHIC FUCKS! jace cavacini is a HUMAN BEING WITH RIGHTS which YOU VIOLATED

YOU OWE ME MILLIONS!!!!